Monday, December 7, 2009

Belated Thanksgiving update & more

Wow I am way overdue for a post.  There has been a lot going on in the land of Ruth  :)

The Thanksgiving break went by sooo fast but it was really nice.  My sister & BIL flew in from San Jose.  We had traditional Thanksgiving dinner at my other sister's house.  Then on Friday, since it was Korbanir Eid, we had the whole family get together at our place and DH got to show off with his delicious Bangledeshi-style cooking.  He made chicken korma,  goat curry, Bengali-style salad.  My sister made some dal (lentils).  Yum yum yum!  And a couple of good friends of ours were driving through from San Diego and got to stop by just in time to feast with the family.  :)  For the most part, the Thanksgiving break went well except for a little family drama.  I think some people felt hurt by other peoples' attitudes, and some people are still as selfish as ever and I certainly don't want to encourage that.  At least nothing got too heated.

Since then I've been keeping busy with work and then of course, car drama.  On Tuesday before Thanksgiving,  I was leaving my nail salon and some 17-yr old backed a pick-up into the back of my Scion.  Ugh.  It was still driveable but left a huge ugly dent.  I took it to the body shop and then they got the parts in on the following Tuesday so we dropped it off.  And wouldn't it be my luck, that when we only have one car available, that's when it decides to act all funny.  Something about the cold weather and we must have a messed up sensor in our old, crappy Mercedes (yes, there IS such a thing-it's our car!)  Wednesday it was fine, but both Thursday & Friday when DH had to take me to work, the car REFUSED to start....until the sun came up.  Weird.  And then it kept dying on the road.  DH had to repeatedly park the car in the middle of the street and then re-start it.  Then it would work fine for him the rest of the day.....until Friday when he came to pick me up.  Then it decided to all of a sudden die in the parking lot and refuse to start....again.  I had to have a friend drive me to the body shop to pick up my Scion and by the time I made it back, DH had finally gotten the car to start and he dropped it off at a shop near our place.  So we are still at one car now but at least we don't have to worry about it working. I really don't know what to do about the other car.  It is so old and so not worth the money it needs to fix it properly.  DH wants to sell it but I know we'd hardly get anything for it and I soooo do not want the hassle of shopping for another car right now.

IF-wise, all the busy stuff has really helped me to take my mind off of things.  But we still have a little over a month before seeing the urologist and some days I feel I just can't stand to wait any longer!  We managed to get through the family time without any nagging questions.  Except for when my sister from Cali was talking about how she hates it when people ask when she's going to have kids...and she can't stand it because she doesn't want kids.  At least not now, but from the way she talks it sounds like maybe she doesn't want them at all.  So yeah that was pretty tough sitting through her and my annoying sister complain about the same questions I complained about.....but for pretty much the opposite reasons.

Then yesterday my mom was up here and she tried to bring it up again, this time asking me why I got mad when she asked about it "in front of my brother."  As if THAT is what made me upset?  I told her I don't want to talk about it.  So she let it go...but it was like "Ok, so what else am I not supposed to ask about?"  *Ugh* My mom can be so air-headed sometimes.  Sometimes I wish I could just tell her so maybe she would stop nagging me, but then I know she probably would start a whole other type of nagging and then tell everyone about it.  I certainly was not going to tell her without DH there since this is especially personal for him.  I'm not sure when we're going to tell our parents.  The other day I told DH that if it turns out that the doctor will do a biopsy or some other "procedure," we should at least tell our parents before that.  But he's still unsure.  Let's hope we make it through the Christmas season without any more drama.

1 comment:

  1. Wow, it sounds like you've been through enough family and car drama to last more than just these few weeks until Christmas! What is it about the holidays...

    I found you through Alison's blog and thought I would introduce myself. DH and I are just a step ahead of where you are with the azoo thing. We got the "no sperm" results in early Nov and were immediately referred to a urologist. DH had his first appointment and the hormone results back, both confirming non-obstructed azoo. We are waiting for our follow up appt right before Christmas when we will get the genetic test results and find out if a biopsy is an option.

    I wanted to comment on your debate re: telling your family. DH and I are so there! He really doesn't want anyone to know, but I think that having our immediate family know and around for support would be a big blessing. Plus, we could use the extra prayers. :)

    Sorry for the long post, I'll wrap it up now. Wishing you a drama-free week!